Have you ever had someone important to you simply not answer one of the biggest questions you ever had?
So long as they truly cared for you and did not make up a quick answer, give you a well-worn chestnut, or pressure you into accepting their rigid, fossilized answer…not answering was the best option they had.
Possibilities:
- They did not know the answer and were ashamed, frightened, taken aback
- They did not have the equipment to understand the importance of the question or tolerate its implications
- They knew you needed to find your own answer
The Upside:
When you release the ideas that they did not care enough or were withholding the answer from you, you gain freedom. It becomes up to you to find an answer. No one else can do it, you realize.
Outwardly, or just in your own heart, thank everyone who never lied to you about something big and who never treated your big question as if it were just a task or a non-event. Thank them even if they could not answer your questions.